Father, Where Are You?

It is Father’s day.

But unfortunately many homes resonate with the questions “where is daddy?” or “who is my daddy?”

As the feminist movement progresses, and as women have become liberated and independent over the years, more and more children are born out-of-wedlock.  The CDC released a report last year with shocking data showing that 40.7% of children in the US are born outside of marriage, and many of these children do not have a father figure in the home to shape a complete family that nurtures them to adulthood.

A boy needs a father  in his life to identify with and show him the world through a God-given priesthood installed in the family by God Himself.

A girl needs her father to give her confidence and a critical approach to future relationships. This is in addition to showing her Christ as the center of the family.

Many families (some Christian) do not have a father to provide this critical role, and this has become a national tragedy.  The National Fatherhood Initiative has compiled many studies (here) to show how devastating the absence of the father has become.  These are some of the conclusions:

  • Children in father-absent homes are almost four times more likely to be poor.
  • Children born to single mothers show higher levels of aggressive behavior than children born to married mothers.
  • Infant mortality rates are 1.8 times higher for infants of unmarried mothers than for married mothers.
  • Even after controlling for income, youths in father-absent households still had significantly higher odds of incarceration than those in mother-father families. Youths who never had a father in the household experienced the highest odds.
  • Being raised by a single mother raises the risk of teen pregnancy, marrying with less than a high school degree, and forming a marriage where both partners have less than a high school degree.
  • The National Longitudinal Survey of Youth found that obese children are more likely to live in father-absent homes than are non-obese children.
  • Father involvement in schools is associated with the higher likelihood of a student getting mostly A’s.

And the list of such studies goes on and on.  America will suffer greatly in the coming generation(s) because fathers are no longer in the home.  Our children will not be complete socially without fathers, and they will also be a at severe spiritual disadvantage because the husband and father is the spiritual leader of the household.  Whatever the reason is for his absence, it will most likely leave the family unit in disarray.

So true sound the words of the wise man who says in Proverbs 20:7 “The righteous who walks in his integrity— blessed are his children after him!” We must turn back to the God-ordained family unit of one father and one mother who raise their children in the fear of the LORD.

I wish all fathers who visit Delight in Truth a blessed Father’s Day!

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8 comments on “Father, Where Are You?

    • Thank you Rodi, you are an inspiration to many Romanian Americans including myself. The many hours you put into transcribing sermons on your blog will be rewarded one day.

      Think of this, you are an evangelist!

  1. I also wish you a Happy Father’s Day, Delight.

    I am blessed to be the Father of two young adults who believe in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior.

    I’m glad you mentioned the The National Fatherhood Initiative. We have a video and some teaching materials from them at the parenting center. They are very helpful to young Dads who are raising children on their own.

    Thanks for sharing the statistics above. They don’t surprise me as, for the most part, America has turned its back on God’s Word.

    Thank you for sharing Proverbs 20:7.

    As you have so aptly stated:

    “We must turn back to the God-ordained family unit of one father and one mother who raise their children in the fear of the LORD.”

    It is the right way to raise a family.

    God’s blessings…

    By the way, my family gave me a tie with the scripture from Deuteronomy 6:5 printed on it. I got to wear it to church today.

    • Chris, happy Father’s day to you also! I am overjoyed that your children know God. It is the most important thing on my mind as my young children grow up… They must meet God at some point and be regenerated…

  2. Reblogged this on Wings of the Wind and commented:
    Delight shares some interesting statistics.

    I have found it interesting that I have never gotten a complaint from a couple who is living together when I’ve asked to pray with them. I always tell them that I feel it is my responsibility to tell them that marriage is God’s way. Marriage is so important to God that He calls believers The Bride and Himself The Bridegroom. All should know the results that Delight shares here. How many marriages could be saved if parents knew the effects it has on children? I know that free marriage counseling, like the counseling at the parenting center with which I am involved, is hard to find. But one must make the effort to find good, Christian counsel before making a decision that may have lifelong effects.

  3. I am sorry to put cold water on the “father’s day “.. but who invented this holiday? I believe is just another ploy to separate me from my money… so I decided not to celebrate it…. I like my money to stay under my mattress than going into some silly gift shop…

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